Sad Interview

I was watching Apadana channel, one of the Iraninan stations on Satelite on Sunday night.
It was showing interviews with prostitutes and drug addicts in Iran, I felt so bad; I could not stop thinking about it after the program for couple of hours. Some of these girls were so pretty and young, one of them was saying that she was betrayed by her love and then she decided to suicide and finally ran a way from home and end up being a prostitute. I know some young people do not care about being virgin any more or even some men in Iran, of course young generations may care less about a girl’s virginity, but I think one of the big issues that helps girls to end up being a prostitute besides the poverty is virginity issue. Some of these girls or most of them wanted or unwanted lose their virginity and they are so scared from their parents, brothers, … and they think the best solution is running a way. When they run a way there is no job, no shelter and they end up in the street in the big cities and when they are hungry with no roof on their head they have no other choice. But in west even if a girl loses her virginity, it is not a big deal she can move on, get a job or continue education and she does not need to pay for one time mistake for the rest of her life!

Please do not get me wrong I am not encouraging non-virginity and am not an anti virgin woman but that should be a personal choice even in free societies like U.S some girls decide to stay virgin until they get married which is very respectful but making it this big deal that loosing it ruins someone’s life is so stupid. Why men should not be virgin, even if we are following religion, men should stay virgin too so the problem is our chauvinist culture that every thing is fine for men but a big sin for women.

I believe we need a big change in our culture, women should be equal with men but unfortunately some young women think being equal means sleep around with whoever and using drugs so they feel equal, No I think when we can become equal that we try our best to educate ourselves, fight for our rights and be strong in dealing with different kind of problems that society creates for us. Why loose up in sex or drug, try harder to get better jobs, entering universities, become a writer, lawyer, etc…
I know some people will laugh at me and say “nafasesh az jaye garm boland mishe” but we had lots of well educated people coming from poor families, if there is a will every thing is possible, it is more difficult to reach high goals in societies like Iran but it is not impossible!