Happiness or Joy

I just have a very recent personal discovery. Every now and then I used to ask myself that am I really happy in my life? Sometimes the answer was yes and sometimes was no. It depended on my mood and the status of my life at the moment. I used to think about who is really happy around me. I could not really name one person that I was sure that she/he is really happy. It seems that I have been dumb student of life but finally it clicked in my mind that there is no absolute happiness. Happiness comes and goes. We all become happy and sad depending on the situation that we are living in it. Sometimes we are happy, sometimes we are sad. Life is a combination of sadness and happiness and we have to accept it as it is. If we want to fight for every drop of happiness in this ocean of life we end of being disappointed and miserable. We have to embrace happiness when it comes but if it goes we have to know that it will come back again, we should just provide the situation for it to come back.  Something very interesting happened to me today, while I was thinking about my new discovery I read on Paulo Coelho's blog (paulocoelhoblog.com) that we have to look for joy which starts and ends like when we have a coffee with a good friend and enjoy the chat or when we go the beach and run around and enjoy the ocean breeze or lots of other little things that we can enjoy in life. Paulo Coelho's example for joy was sex, it starts but it ends! He was saying the same thing that perusing happiness can be a trap. Wow, maybe that is my sign that as soon as I came to this conclusion I read my favorite author's blog and see this post and now I feel that my thought was approved by someone that I really have a high regard for. I am reading his book Zahir now. He is so amazing, may be the best author that I know.

 So we better look for joy and stop forcing ourselves for being happy all the time and get mad when we are not happy! We have to make our lives as joyful as possible by doing little thing that we like…

Oh my god, it took me almost 40 years to be able to have this discovery, I am indeed a dumb student of life class!!!!