To be on FaceBook or Not!!!!!!

It is so interesting that people re-connect through social networking web sites these days, especially by Facebook which I think is the most popular one! I myself did not want to be on these sites and once opened an account on Orkut but soon closed my account. Since I am a Technology person I know that these sites although they have some level of security but they are not really secure. For example Face book owns your data and even if you deactivate your account they still have your data like pictures, etc. Any way most of my friends were on Facebook and suggested that I join to. I decided to join when my cousins in Iran and Europe encouraged me to have the account so we can see each other’s pictures and be in touch easier. Lots of my classmates even from elementary school found me on Facebook and also my collage classmates found me as well, which is interesting. When you see their pictures with their kids, husbands and wives is really entertaining. Most of my classmates and friends do not even live in Iran any more.

Three weeks ago I had a request from a friend who is a guy and was my teacher’s son back in Iran who madly fell in love with me at that time. I was 16 and he was 18 or 19 but I was very young, not really ready for having a boy friend, especially because I was from a restrict family and I also liked another guy so I hurt his feelings. He was such a good guy but I did not treat him well. Later we were just friends and by the time that I was graduated from high school he moved to Europe and I never heard of him after wards. Now all of a sudden he found me on Facebook and wanted to be added to my Friends list. I sent him a message and mentioned that I am married and have two boys and he wrote back that he is divorced and no kids. Any way I did not want to hurt him again and I added him to list of my friends. He had seen my kid’s pictures and wrote me how cute they are. He sent another message which I did not respond! I don’t know how right it is to add people that they had some sort of romantic role in our lives at some point, especially if we are married now. Although it was nothing serious and I never played the role of his girl friend I am still skeptic about having him in list of my friends in Facebook and be in touch. My husband told me once that a serious girl friend that he had when he was younger like 20 years ago wanted to add him as a friend but he did not add her which was impressive to me. Now I think maybe I did not do the right thing but on the other hand I was not really serious with him any way but what if he still has some feelings for me, usually when you love someone when you see them or be in touch with them again can bring memories and feelings back to you, even if it has been a long time!! May be I am just making it a big deal! The thing is that I don’t want anything affect my loyalty level towards my husband and my family.
Oh well may be being on Facebook is not the best idea for me after all!!