Painting is done!

We spent whole last week at my Mom’s house, although my mom was so nice and serving us all the time and comforted us a lot but I still wanted to go back home and sleep in my own bed as soon as possible. It is amazing that we spend 20, 30, … years living with our families but as soon as we get separated and live independently as a single or married person then we just like to stay independent and be on our own! The painting got finished by Saturday night and the contractors did a very good job, I like the new colors and the house looks very new now! There was lots of work when painters left and the whole house needed cleaning and organizing. I asked the lady that helps with cleaning to come on Sunday. I was expecting my husband to help out with cleaning the mess and putting back things in their place too, but he just gave me the news on Saturday night that he wanted to go to his weekly soccer game on Sunday Morning (which I could bear with) and after soccer he wanted to go to funeral of a very far friend’s father whom I believe he had not seen at least for a couple of years. That made me very mad and I said: How can you leave me with this whole mess and go and do your own plans? Instead of understanding me he got mad that you want to tell me what to do all the time! Any way we got into a big fight. I just left the house ( I could not stay because of the paint smell) It was not about I tell him what to do, it was about being understanding of situation. I feel that some times he forgets that I am pregnant and need more help and support at home. He acted like a defiant child who does not want to listen!
Any way our fight lingered on Sunday too. I had to do a lot at home and fight with him too. He did not go to Funeral any way but he nagged a lot about it!
I was stressed and this is not good for me and the baby!! I am still mad at him but am just dealing with it! I don’t understand why he becomes so inconsiderate sometime. In general he is a nice man but some times he acts like I am pushing him, if I ask for more help. My point is that this is our both of us home and I work outside too and I am currently pregnant so he should be more helpful but he looks at it differently, he thinks that I am ordering him or abusing him. If I would not do any thing my self and just expected him to do every thing he was right but I am working around the house myself all the time and I am not a nagy pregnant woman, I come to work every day. Take care of house work and do most of shopping as well! Any way no offense to the men who read this but I think men, or at least some men can become very inconsiderate and defiant sometimes!! They just forget about being married and want to act like they are an 18 year old single boy!