Girls out night!

Last Saturday was my friends’s Birthday. The Friend that I know since we were in fifth grade in Iran, and I have written about her here. She and other friends of her wanted to celebrate the Birthday party at a club in Newport Beach area and that would be just ladies!! Since I have been very exhausted by kids, house work, Professional work, husband, Mom and etc. I decided to go and have some fun. This was my first time in my almost 9 years of marriage that I would go out at night with a group of friends without my husband. My another good friend that we know each other for a long time too and is married was coming so I was very encouraged to go. We were about 10 women and just 3 of us were married the rest were either divorced or never married and all above 35 years old. It was a fun night but I and my other married friend figured out at the end of the night that we would not want to be single!! I myself feel that I have passed that stage and I don’t want to go back to it! I think it is fun to be single when you are in your 2o’s but after certain age which can be different for everyone and it really depends on the person being single is not as much fun as lots of people think!
I am very happy that I went that night because it has been a while that I have been tired and exhausted of playing role of mother, wife, daughter a professional woman all at the same time and I have been thinking recently that it would be fun if I were single , be on my own and would go out party and enjoy my life, now with going to that Birthday celebration I could sense how lost the single friends were and how they all wanted to hook up with someone and some of them even looked desperate to me. My friend herself have just broken up with another boy friend recently, this was may be the fifth serious guy in her life after her divorce and it seems this cycle is going on in her life, meets someone gets serious, have fun in the beginning but after few months or in some cases a year there are lots of conflicts and everything ends. I myself cannot live like that for sure!!
It seems day by day people get more lost in their lives and don’t know what they are really looking for! And that is sad, that’s why there are lots of divorces, alcohol, drug usage and dysfunctional families in all societies these days. People are not real any more; they don’t know what they want and what their priorities are!!
Molavi (Rumi) says: the biggest advantage for someone is knowledge and the worst thing is not knowing!! ( Bozorgtarin Fazilat agahi va bozorgtarin moshkel jahl ast).