Movies

I watched two movies over the weekend! The first one was Closer, which was interesting movie and at the same time weird! It was about 2 couple having relationships and they all cheated on each other! The movie was showing how shallow and superficial are some relationships these days, if we don’t say most of relationships!!
It was about their guilt feelings and complexity of human nature about these kinds of feelings. It was interesting that me and my husband both got the same conclusion and lesson of the movie and that was to be honest and lead a life without any lie or cheat. We both agree that nothing worth the guilt feeling!

The other movie was recommended by my co-worker and it’s name was Crash. I liked this movie it was all about racism in a big city like Los Angeles that different nationalities and races all live together and the issues and challenges that they should deal with!
It was about Iranians, Black, white, Hispanic (all the people from Sought America that have Latin blood are called Hispanic in US) and Chinese! The movie was showing that each group was racist in it’s own way but at the end they all needed each other and they all needed to get a long. Another important point that movie was bringing up was the gun, and how bad it is that just regular people can carry gun here. I am so against the rule that let ordinary people to carry gun. This is really wrong; this is just on beneficiary of gun manufacturers! I really, really wish a world withought any GUN. I am sure the life would be much better and simpler!!

Cunning wish

Last couple of days has been just ordinary days for me. Nothing special has happened.

My husband’s best friend who moved to our city from LA and I talked about him and his family before, had gone to Iran for visiting, he came back last week.
He has not been able to find job here yet. The very big mistake that he made was to move to a new city first then start to look for job!! Any way since he is back from Iran, he is talking to move to Iran! His wife seems to be interested in moving to Iran too. All of their immediate family live there. I don’t know if they decide to go back is a wise choice or not for them. They both have been living in US over 20 years. It won’t be easy to adjust to Iran system again, which is very different from here.

The thing is since they have brought up that there is a possibility for them to move there I kind of became happy which is kind of cunning but I feel that they are not good influence for my husband and for our marriage. As I talked about it before they heavily drink and I think the wife is already alcoholic! When I say alcoholic I refer to the rule that says if some one drinks alcohol three times a week every week is alcoholic. Some people think alcoholic is the one that drinks all day a long! Any way I really don’t feel comfortable being around them so often, but my husband likes his friend a lot, which I understand, and he likes to see them very often! So I hope if it is a good thing for them they move to Iran and resolve this new issue for me.

It is amazing that when you get married there are so many things that can have impact on your marriage that you don’t even imagine as a single. I think in lots of marriages the people around the couple can have a very important role in the relationship including good or bad role! May be a very wise person never gets married and enjoy her/his single life without so many unnecessary headaches!! But I love my husband and my son and am not regretting my marriage but some times there are little clouds in our little sky!!

Long weekend

Yesterday was Labor Day in US. My husband and me got Friday off so we could have 4 days weekend and spend some time together and with our son. On Friday we took him to the Zoo, it was his 4th time being in Zoo and he did not seem to be interested this time at all. It’s interesting that kids change a lot even about what they like or not very fast! On Friday night we went to watch 40-year-old Virgin movie at Movie Theater. It was very funny and I highly recommend it. We laughed so much and I really need it! The rest of the weekend was relaxing and peaceful, we took our son to the beach and park and played with him a lot. He is at a terrible two stage now and me and my husband need lots of patience to deal with him, sometimes when he pushes me to the edge I pray to god to give me enough patience and power to stay calm and act as good as I can!!

The bad news that every one knows about these days is the big hurricane in south. I feel so sorry for the poor people, they have lost every thing, this is a lot worse than September 11th and unfortunately the government did not do a good job in handling the situation! I truly pray for those poor people and I wish they can get the best help as soon as possible.
These are all like a lesson for us that life is so unpredictable and we should enjoy every moment of it and if something is not as perfect as we want, just put up with it and be grateful for every thing else that we have. These days I feel that I am growing up more every day, I try to teach myself lessons of what ever I see around or I hear around.
I was not that way before, I would get sad when I saw bad things happen for others but I could not get a lesson from it for my self! Any way we should just trust in god and try to be the best of ourselves!! That’s all we can do!

Sad day

Today we went for the ceremony and funeral of the little boy that has passed a way (my co-worker’s son). It was very sad and I cried a lot, may be more than the closer relatives! when they were burring the little boy I felt that some one is stabbing my heart. I was so sad, at the same moment I remembered my own fathers funeral, I did not go to any burial after my father passed a way. I would just go for the ceremony but this time was different I wanted to show my support and care for my co-worker. It was nice that even our director and chief came to the funeral. I am sure that means a lot to my co-worker.

I was amazed that how quietly they were mourning, no loud cry no screaming. Comparing to our funerals it was too quite. Of course they would cry quietly but you would not hear any loud cry or any thing like that. My co-worker and her husband are both from Philippines I guess their culture like western people is to hold the sorrow and they are more quite than us. If you go to a Persian funeral you see lots of loud cries, some times screams and loud talking with the dead person. I believe some times it’s too much but may be helps the people to spit out their sorrow and feel better.

Just imagine last Thursday the little boy was fine and my co-worker was at work not knowing that she would have funeral for her son the following week. We really don’t know what happens tomorrow and we get so involved with two many stupid details in life, things that are worth less to think about but we never get our lesson we go back to the same routine and attach to materialism and forget that life is too short to waste it for nothing!

Just believing in god and next life can give some meaning to the reason of life, I really wonder why all these things happen, why a little boy should come to this world and then die so soon? What can be the reason behind it? God is beyond every thing and his decisions are apparently beyond our little logics!