Holiday passed fast!

-Thanksgiving holiday was good, but kind of busy for us. We are still re-organizing house and did a major clean up in garage during holidays, which was very un-organized and some how dirty. We went to the concert on Thanksgiving night and it was fun, both Dariush and Mansour did a good job. I saw a new movie at Movie Theater on Saturday night which I highly recommend, the name is American Gangster, and it is based on a true story. Russell Crow and Denzel Washington play in it and they are both excellent actors, especially Russell Crow that I really like him and he was very handsome in this movie. With his new hair style he reminded me of some one who I used to love, long time a go. What is the deal with first love that every once in a while something or someone reminds you of him/her and that occupies your mind at the moment?!!

-I am getting ready for the new baby; most of house re-organization has been because of him! There is a custom here in US that towards the end of pregnancy on 7th or 8th months, a close friend or family member throws a party for the Mommy to be and invites other friends or family members of her. Usually just women are invited and every one brings a present, the mom registers the list of gifts at one or more store so people know what she needs for the new born. Women play games at the party and in overall is a fun event! This time my husband’s cousin who is very nice and is close to me and my Mom is throwing the party for me. That would be second Saturday of December. When I went to register gifts and saw all the newborn’s stuff, I thought oh my god I am really having another baby, I better be ready!! I hope it won’t be too challenging with my son!

-Tomorrow is Thanksgiving Day in US and we will be off on Friday as well, so we will have a four days weekend. I love the Thanksgiving holiday. As usual we are invited to my husband’s cousin house who throws party for thanksgiving every year. Poor turkeys, they have been slaughtered in last few days to be on people’s dinner table tomorrow!

-I am getting bigger these days but it is mostly my tummy! I cannot wait until I go back to my normal size again. I remember when I was pregnant with my first son I used to think about how it is going to be when he is born all the time but now I don’t think about it that much. Poor second babies, since parents already have the experience they are not as excited as they were for the first child. I know I will love him as much as first one but I am cooler about it now. I know it will be lot of work and we all have to be very careful with my son so he won’t be too jealous. He is a little bit acting out in school these days, nothing very serious but I hear complains from teacher more. May be because we had a not very peaceful week at home last week. He is very smart but he is not an easy boy for sure. I hope the second one is easier to manage! Last night my son was not in a good mood and did not want to eat, I was thinking to myself that being parent has been the most difficult challenge of my life. I asked my husband what has been your most difficult challenge in life? he said:dealing with you when you are mad at me!!!!

-Tonight I and my husband are going to Dariush & Mansour concert (Dariush is the most famous male Persian singer and is my favorite). I am very excited! I have been to Dariush concert before and I love his voice.

Painting is done!

We spent whole last week at my Mom’s house, although my mom was so nice and serving us all the time and comforted us a lot but I still wanted to go back home and sleep in my own bed as soon as possible. It is amazing that we spend 20, 30, … years living with our families but as soon as we get separated and live independently as a single or married person then we just like to stay independent and be on our own! The painting got finished by Saturday night and the contractors did a very good job, I like the new colors and the house looks very new now! There was lots of work when painters left and the whole house needed cleaning and organizing. I asked the lady that helps with cleaning to come on Sunday. I was expecting my husband to help out with cleaning the mess and putting back things in their place too, but he just gave me the news on Saturday night that he wanted to go to his weekly soccer game on Sunday Morning (which I could bear with) and after soccer he wanted to go to funeral of a very far friend’s father whom I believe he had not seen at least for a couple of years. That made me very mad and I said: How can you leave me with this whole mess and go and do your own plans? Instead of understanding me he got mad that you want to tell me what to do all the time! Any way we got into a big fight. I just left the house ( I could not stay because of the paint smell) It was not about I tell him what to do, it was about being understanding of situation. I feel that some times he forgets that I am pregnant and need more help and support at home. He acted like a defiant child who does not want to listen!
Any way our fight lingered on Sunday too. I had to do a lot at home and fight with him too. He did not go to Funeral any way but he nagged a lot about it!
I was stressed and this is not good for me and the baby!! I am still mad at him but am just dealing with it! I don’t understand why he becomes so inconsiderate sometime. In general he is a nice man but some times he acts like I am pushing him, if I ask for more help. My point is that this is our both of us home and I work outside too and I am currently pregnant so he should be more helpful but he looks at it differently, he thinks that I am ordering him or abusing him. If I would not do any thing my self and just expected him to do every thing he was right but I am working around the house myself all the time and I am not a nagy pregnant woman, I come to work every day. Take care of house work and do most of shopping as well! Any way no offense to the men who read this but I think men, or at least some men can become very inconsiderate and defiant sometimes!! They just forget about being married and want to act like they are an 18 year old single boy!

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-I have been very busy lately. We decided to paint the house, at first we just wanted to paint the kids rooms and family room but then we decided to paint the whole house. The painters have started from today; I have to stay at my mom’s house because of the smell of the paint. It will be lots of work! But we have to do it now otherwise we cannot do it after the baby comes. I hope they finish fast, the contractor said one week but usually they stretch more than what they say!

-I have recently watched two good movies, “Michael Clayton” played by George Clooney.
The first motivation to go to Movie Theater to watch was it, was because George Clooney plays in it! And second motivation was the good reviews of the movie. After the movie I made sure that I did not want to be a lawyer, before I always thought may be I could continue my education and get law degree but recently I had heard lots of stories that how though it can be to be a lawyer at big law firms and they make you work very long hours and there are lots of competition, I thought may be for a family person like me that would be impossible. Other than that when you are a lawyer sometimes you have to twist the truth, unless you work for yourself and be very specific about your clients and cases! And I really don’t like to twist any truth on purpose! Any way it was a good movie and made me remember that being a lawyer although it can be very exiting and helpful for lots of people but does not match my personality that much!

The other movie that I saw just over the weekend was “Lord of war”, that was about a gun dealer who would traffic guns to different countries especially African countries. A smart police was on his and …. I don’t want to tell the whole story in case you want to watch it but that made me sad that how people for money and power directly or indirectly kill innocent people. Like all the wars that are happening in today’s world and is all about money and power. There are always excuses to make the whole mess look reasonable! It seems that us (human beings) or at least our leaders have not changed much and we are not so different from our descendents who we consider uncivilized, they would attack each other’s country and they were at least honest about the purposes of their attack, today world leaders do same thing but bring all sorts of excuses to make the war reasonable. That really makes me sick.
Can we have a world without any wars some day? I doubt it!! As long as there are people with greed for money and power that is impossible!