Halloween again!

-It is Halloween time again. You see pumpkins everywhere. I took my son to pumpkin patch to pick some pumpkins for decorations. He is very excited about Halloween this year! He will wear police officer costume! I remember how excited I was the first Halloween that I was in US! Things get in to routines fast and eventually by aging you become more serious and get less excited over simple cute things! I try not to get old fast though!

-I feel that I need a very relaxing vacation! In some resort where I can just lie on the beach under the sun and enjoy the ocean breeze! Read my favorite book and have a cold drink to sip! Wow I really need it. Vacationing in Europe was fun but we walked a lot and we traveled to different cities so it was not really restful! That’s why I miss vacationing so soon again!
But this time I better go to Iran to visit my brother and relatives. I really miss my brother. We were so close and now it is more than 5 years that I have not seen him. If US was closer to Iran that would be perfect. I always envy the relatives in Europe that can travel to Iran once or even twice a year! They are just 5 hours flight a way!
-I don't see any comment in my blog these days, it means my blog is getting too boring and no one wants to read it any more. Which is OK, I write what ever I feel I cannot make myself to write about things that I don't think about it at the moment but is appealing to read. I look at my blog as my diary so I write what ever is really in my mind or what ever is happening in my life!

-I am very tired these days. Getting enough sleep, at least 8 hours a day has been very important to me but since I have a kid, my sleep schedule has greatly changed. Unfortunately my son is not a good sleeper and he usually wakes up at least once a night. For a short while by using suggested techniques we could make him sleep through the night but in last couple of weeks he is waking up in the middle of night and makes it very hard for me to go back to sleep. I am tired when I wake up in the morning! One of my wishes is he can sleep through the night and does not wake me up! May be this is one of the biggest reasons that I cannot make up my mind about having another kid!

-My mother-in-law spent some time with us last weekend and this weekend. As usual she is pain in the neck! Always says things that are not very nice for me to hear! Any way I tried to be just patient and hear from one ear and let it go from the other one!

-I had email account with Yahoo (under my real name) for about 8 years and always thought Yahoo is very reliable. Since last Friday all of the sudden I could log on to my account. I contacted them and they directed me to Account security group who communicate with you just through emails. They asked me all sorts of questions about my account but I could not answer the secret question. How can I remember the answer after 8 years? I tried to provide them any information that can be a proof that I am the real owner of the account but apparently they are not giving it back to me. I am so upset about it. I have some important emails in that account! I highly advise every one not to keep any important or confidential email in your email accounts. Always store them on a CD and on your PC!
Anyway I have lost my emails and email addresses of my friends. Thank god my husband had some of my Forwarding emails which had some of my friends email addresses! But the rest of my friends, I should ask around to find their email addresses again. Relying on internet and online information is not a very good idea! We still need to have a manual address book with the information written on it by our pen!!

A good lesson!

There is a gentleman, Elahi Ghomshei (Those who live in Iran , know him for sure) that I think is philosopher and psychologist. On International Satellite the Persian channels sometimes show his programs. I really like him and his philosophy of life, although I usually don’t have time to listen to the whole program but I try to catch some here and catch some there of his beautiful words. The other day I was flipping through channels and saw some part of his program. One of his sentences that really went to my brain was, “create a diary book for yourself and try not to do any thing that you don’t want to write about it in your diary”. He meant any thing bad that can make you ashamed of yourself and stop you from writing about it!
Wow! It is such a great lesson! My diary is my blog, although I don’t update it every day but I write about any high lights of my life, my happiness, my sadness, etc. I was thinking to myself, have I done any thing that I did not want to write about it in my blog. I could not think of anything specific! Sometimes I don’t write about some stuff because I find them too boring to write about! But what about our thoughts and feelings! I think we should not think about things that we really don’t want to write about it either, like hating others, feeling jealous towards others and stuff like that, we should really control our thoughts and feelings too, for example if we feel negative about some one or hate the person just change the path of our thoughts and put a stop on bad feeling. That takes lots of courage and effort but is doable. The more we try to modify our actions and thoughts the better person we become. I hope I can do that myself too!

Very interesting advise!

I thought I should share this document that I receive in an email from a friend. it is worth it to read!

Author: Stephen Covey
Discover the 90/10 Principle.
It will change your life (at least the way you react to situations).
What is this principle? 10% of life is made up of what happens to you. 90% of life is decided by how you react.
What does this mean? We really have no control over 10% of what happens to us.
We cannot stop the car from breaking down. The plane will be late arriving, which throws our whole schedule off. A driver may cut us off in traffic.
We have no control over this 10%. The other 90% is different. You determine the other 90%.
How? ……….By your reaction.
You cannot control a red light. but you can control your reaction. Don't let people fool you; YOU can control how you react.
Let's use an example.
You are eating breakfast with your family. Your daughter knocks over a cup of coffee onto your business shirt. You have no control over what just happened.
What happens next will be determined by how you react.
You curse.
You harshly scold your daughter for knocking the cup over. She breaks down in tears. After scolding her, you turn to your spouse and criticize her for placing the cup too close to the edge of the table. A short verbal battle follows. You storm upstairs and change your shirt. Back downstairs, you find your daughter has been too busy crying to finish breakfast and get ready for school. She misses the bus.
Your spouse must leave immediately for work. You rush to the car and drive your daughter to school. Because you are late, you drive 40 miles an hour in a 30 mph speed limit.
After a 15-minute delay and throwing $60 traffic fine away, you arrive at school. Your daughter runs into the building without saying goodbye. After arriving at the office 20 minutes late, you find you forgot your briefcase. Your day has started terrible. As it continues, it seems to get worse and worse. You look forward to coming home.
When you arrive home, you find small wedge in your relationship with your spouse and daughter.
Why? …. Because of how you reacted in the morning.
Why did you have a bad day?
A) Did the coffee cause it?
B) Did your daughter cause it?
C) Did the policeman cause it?
D) Did you cause it?
The answer is "D".
You had no control over what happened with the coffee. How you reacted in those 5 seconds is what caused your bad day.
Here is what could have and should have happened.
Coffee splashes over you. Your daughter is about to cry. You gently say, "Its ok honey, you just need to be more careful next time". Grabbing a towel you rush upstairs. After grabbing a new shirt and your briefcase, you come back down in time to look through the window and see your child getting on the bus. She turns and waves. You arrive 5 minutes early and cheerfully greet the staff. Your boss comments on how good the day you are having.
Notice the difference?
Two different scenarios. Both started the same. Both ended different.
Why?
Because of how you REACTED.
You really do not have any control over 10% of what happens. The other 90% was determined by your reaction.
Here are some ways to apply the 90/10 principle. If someone says something negative about you, don't be a sponge. Let the attack roll off like water on glass. You don't have to let the negative comment affect you!
React properly and it will not ruin your day. A wrong reaction could result in losing a friend, being fired, getting stressed out etc.
How do you react if someone cuts you off in traffic? Do you lose your temper? Pound on the steering wheel? A friend of mine had the steering wheel fall off) Do you curse? Does your blood pressure skyrocket? Do you try and bump them?
WHO CARES if you arrive ten seconds later at work? Why let the cars ruin your drive?
Remember the 90/10 principle, and do not worry about it.
You are told you lost your job.
Why lose sleep and get irritated? It will work out. Use your worrying energy and time into finding another job.
The plane is late; it is going to mangle your schedule for the day. Why take outpour frustration on the flight attendant? She has no control over what is going on.
Use your time to study, get to know the other passenger. Why get stressed out? It will just make things worse.
Now you know the 90-10 principle. Apply it and you will be amazed at the results. You will lose nothing if you try it. The 90-10 principle is incredible. Very few know and apply this principle.
The result?
Millions of people are suffering from undeserved stress, trials, problems and heartache. We all must understand and apply the 90/10 principle.
It CAN change your life!!!
Enjoy….

New post!

I have been very lazy recently to update my blog! May be because I am very busy these days. At work I am finishing a big project which I learned from it a lot. Thank god I like my job and my co-workers are very nice.
At home things are same; my son is growing very fast and speaks both Farsi and English very cute! Sometimes he makes mistakes that I don’t correct and enjoy them a lot, like Yellow he says lello instead, or Kasif(Farsi word) he says Kafis! But we should be very careful in our conversations these days, he picks up new words fast and use them right a way. So whenever we are talking about some thing that is not proper for him to hear we spell it out!! That is the new style of conversations in our home these days!
God! Kids change your lives so much! Although being a Mom is too much work and tiring sometimes but I love him so much and don’t change him for any thing!!

My husband had a dream couple night a go that his dad (he is passed a way) has thrown a part for him and saying to other family members who are passed a way as well that his son (my husband) is coming!! In Iranian culture there are usually meanings for dreams and lots of people believe in dreams and their meanings. In general such a dream is interpreted as the dead person is taking a way the alive one or basically the alive guy will die soon, God forbids.
He told me about his dream and he was kind of upset about it, I tried to make jokes like go a head add up your life insurance to distract him but I myself was kind of scared too! Although I try not to be superstitious but still there is always fear about these kinds of things. My Mom believes most of the dreams don’t have any meaning unless you see them in a certain time of night and certain time of month! Any way I hope there is no bad interpretation for his dream and we can both be alive with our son at least until he turns 18! Because he needs both of us at least until that age, although I believe that we all need the presence of our parents in our lives until we are alive!
Any way thinking about this dream and meaning of it made me very sad and I prayed to god, to keep us alive and together! I don’t care if we lose what ever we have just been healthy and be together!!

This was the story of last couple of days for me!!!!!