A fun night

It is a Persian culture to throw party for newly weds. Usually close family like parents, sister or brother,... throw party some time after the wedding and this party is called "pagosha".
Any way last night we were invited to the "pagosha" for my brother-in-law thrown by the bride's sister it was in a very nice Persian restaurant in Orange County. Although my Mom was invited too but she said that she would stay home and take care of my son (I don't get baby sitter for my son when we are invited at a place far from home). My husband and me went to the party and it was more fun than we thought. I had not drunk for a while so I complemented myself to three Cosmopolitan!! It was tasty and I went for it, any way it made me feel like when I was not a mother and was a party girl!
They had DJ and belly dancer, A beautiful blond belly dancer (Arabic dancer)!! all men got very excited and she got lots of tip!! What she really deserved, she danced very nice too.
We all danced a lot and enjoyed the night! It was a while that I had not have so much fun, because if I take my son to a party I am all the time running after him, if I don't take him and bring a baby sitter at home, I am worry all the time and check my phone very often but last night I knew my son was in a good hand and Cosmopolitan did a good job to calm me down!!

I am throwing "Pagosh" next week at our place for them but we won't have a belly dancer, may be we should fake it ourselves!!

A hot day in San Diego

WE went to the beach this morning. God, it was so hot and kind of humid. We are really spoiled in southern California. We were complaining that why summer is not comming and not we say it is hot. It was 85 F which is about 30 C. I heard Tehran is about 45 C. I don't know how people especially women can take it, I remeber summers with scarf and manteu in Tehtran, I would feel heat comming out of my ear!! you feel that you are walking in hell!

On our way back home we were talking about Ganji ( the political prisoner on hunger strike) it is about 50 days now. How his body could take it so far. I cannot stop thinking about him. I really wish he gets free and he does not die.

Another post!

It’s summer time and I really miss having a good vacation, but it is almost impossible with my son. He is too active these days. May be I just take two days off and stay in town and relax. There are lost of good places to visit in our town, I can be a tourist of my own city!

There is some thing that recently is bothering me although I don’t want to make my blog a nagging place but I think if I write about it, it will make me feel better. As I wrote before my husband’s best friend has moved from LA to our city since about 5 months ago. Obviously my husband is very happy about it. They bought a house 5 minutes a way from us!! My husband’s Friend has a 5 years old daughter and his wife is a cool person, but the problem is that they want to spend lots of time with us and my husband thinks we should do lots of things with them for example if it is weekend and we do not have a special plan we should get together with them. There are two things about this that bothers me:
1- It’s their habit to drink heavily on weekend nights. I am not anti drinking but I don’t approve it every weekend. We never drink at home if there is no occasion but they do it very regularly. Of course if we get together they offer Alcohol to us too. Most of the time I politely refuse it but my husband accepts, although he does not drink a lot but I really don’t like it that becomes his habit too. I already talked about it with him and he admits that they are not doing the right thing. I really don’t like it, especially in front of kids; I don’t want my son to think that drinking Alcohol is a very routine thing to do.
2- The other thing is that we need to spend time together a lone as a family. They are good people but I don’t want to spend very weekend or sometimes weekdays with them. But my husband thinks why not! He thinks may be I don’t like them or so. I believe in moderation in every thing but he is not like me in this aspect at all.
Any way I am trying to moderate the relationship as much as I can. I hope they themselves realize that we cannot spend all of our free time with them just because we live close by.
I never thought they become an issue for me on top of my in-laws issues!!!

Tomorrow I have an Interview that I am not sure it really fits my qualifications. It is more management type of thing. It is inside the same agency that I work for just another department. I have kept it low key and did not mention it at work because may be they don’t even offer job to me and it would be lots of responsibility any way, but on the other hand I am not %100 happy with my current job. May be no body is %100 happy with his job. I feel I am not as much appreciated, as I deserve!
Any way these are my nags for today!!!!!

Life is not fair!

As I mentioned before there is a Persian radio station broadcasting from Los Angeles 24 hours. I like this station and listen to it usually in the morning on my way to work or in the afternoon on my way back home. This Morning part of the news was about Akbar Gangi (the political prisoner, on Hunger strike for 37 days!) I am deeply sorry for what he is going through. It’s so unbelievable and cruel. They were saying that he finally was moved to hospital but the Tehran Prosecutor has said that he has eaten all this time! And there was no Hunger strike at all!! He is moved to hospital because he had problem with his feet!!
I am not that much of a political person but I really admire people like him who stand for their beliefs no matter what! I think may be just one in 10,000,000 has that much guts to stand for him self and freedom like that. Any way after the news the Morning performers who are pretty cool and nice were talking about vacation in summer time and mentioning the list of most fun places on earth for vacationing. Some people called and gave their opinions about the mentioned places. For a second I thought to myself, life is not fair at all, some people are just thinking about vacationing and fun which is absolutely their right and some people go on hunger strike for fighting for basic freedom! You cannot blame the ones that have fun and looking for fun because they have been lucky to have that opportunity in life but what about people that are banned from any fun any simple basic fun of life which is freedom, if we look at it closely we see that freedom of speech can be the minimum right that every human being should be born with it. Unfortunately there is a long way to reach the point that every one put foot to the life with freedom and equal rights and opportunity!

Just Update

It’s over a week that I have not written any thing. Today I felt that I miss my web log. Some times I lose my motivation for writing, I think if I don’t have any thing interesting to talk about why should I write. Although I know that not all my pieces has been interesting so far (may none of them)! Any way I don’t have much readers may be one or two some times, but I write it for my own sake.

Thank god every thing is smooth these days and my son has started talking, although he still has hard time making sentences but his vocabulary is growing. We speak Farsi at home and he learns English at Day care. I can tell he is picking more English than Farsi. He says some words in Farsi and some in English and he has some words of his own, they sound very funny! It’s amazing that how a little kid can fill your whole life, every thing about him is so cute for us.

My Mom is here and she is looking for a little apartment. She is helping my brother at his stores these days. Unfortunately it will be very expensive to live on her own! One bedroom apartment in good neighborhoods are $1000+, the other challenge for her is English, she is studding and practicing but it’s hard at her age to learn another language. Any way I am kind of worry about her, We will support her but starting a new life in another country is not that easy especially when you are 59 years old!Some times I think if the revolution would not happen in Iran how would our lives be? I think we would be living in Iran and may be life would be easier for us! Life is more serious here, you should always run and every thing is so fast! Although I like it here a lot and I am already so used to it and know it as my home and at the same time very grateful about all opportunities that this country has offered to me but deep in my heart I know I belong some where else and I wish I could have all these opportunities in my own home land!!!!!!!!!

4th of July Weekend

We had a very busy 4th of July weekend. It was my brother-in-law’s wedding on Sunday. He is 47 years old and he was never married before because he was so picky and nobody was good enough for him! My mother-in-law had so much dream and hope for his future wife, you could tell that she wanted a daughter-in-law better than me and the other daughter-in-law, because this was her favorite son and the oldest. Any way my brother-in-law met a lady who was married before with 10-year-old daughter. She is not that pretty and not really educated, not I really care. I believe if two people really love each other it does not matter if one of them was married before or had a child, but this was not what the mother wanted for the son!
However in our culture back in Iran if a woman was married before and especially has a kid does not arrange a big wedding party for the second time they usually celebrate the marriage in a small, informal party, but since Iranians living abroad especially in US have changed a lot they had a big formal party with 250 guests in very expensive hotel! I myself like big parties but I am sure there have been lots of gossips behind this wedding.

I was lucky that my Mom was here and she helped me to pick a very nice dress, I should confess that I wanted to shine in this wedding, I know that is a weak point of mine but I wanted to give a good lesson to especially my in-laws so I bought a very beautiful dress and I had a perfect make up. I got so many compliments and I enjoyed them all (weak point again!!). The only bad part was my son being out of control for the ceremony I wanted him to be there in the afternoon for ceremony and I got him a very cute suit. Every one was impressed by his outfit but since he got too much attention, he became so out of control and wanted to destroy every thing so my mom that saw that I was very nervous and uncomfortable volunteered to take him home and come back for reception. She is always my rescuer! Any way I had baby sitter for him at night, my plan was putting him in sleep and then leave the house but he did not want to go to sleep, he felt that something was going on, I was so mad and my husband kept calling me and saying that every one was asking for me. He finally went to sleep at 9:00 pm, we got there at 9:30!
I had asked baby sitter to call if he woke up, she called me at 11:00 but made me sure that she could handle him. Any way half of my mind was at home all the way along in party but it was nice in overall. I think this is part of motherhood, but I never was this much stressed over any thing in my life except concur!!
I need to calm down more and just be more relaxed!! Every thing passes by fast and I should just try to be in control of my mind!!