Wedding

We went to a wedding on Sunday. It was the wedding of our very special family friend’s son. The groom was Iranian and the bride was American so it was a mix wedding having taste of both culture but a little bit more of American culture in it.
Any way it was very nice and touching. When I was watching the ceremony for the first time I thought to myself that would it be possible for me to take part in my son’s wedding? You never know what happens in life. I did not have my parents at my wedding because my father was passed away and my Mom could not get the US visa!
It was very painful for me because I was hopeful that I would have my Mom at my wedding until two days left to my wedding, but I acted really strong on that day. I promised myself not to ruin the day for my husband, our guests and myself by showing any sadness or emotion! But it still hearts when I think about it. I think that is a wish of every parent to be there at his or her kids wedding!
Anyhow the couple looked so good together, they are both 25 years old, very young and full of dreams. I wish them the best of luck.

We are invited to two more weddings in November! This year was year of weddings for us. I am glad that we are taking part in happy events!

Another news is that they called off our Out sourcing again. This is the third time that they bring it up and they disapprove it!! I think my husband is right. It takes forever in a government agency to get rid of employees!! Thank god!!

Training Day!

I went to Anaheim (the city between San Diego and Los Angeles that Disney land is located) for a training session. I left home on Monday night and checked in to the hotel about 9:00 P.M. and took part in classes yesterday all day along. It was so hard to leave my son a lone although my Mom came and stayed at our place but some times he wakes up in the middle of night and calls me I go to his room and comfort him and put him back in sleep. It was the first time in 2.5 years of his life that I was not at home during the night. Any way he had cried after me and my Mom and my husband tried their best to distract him! I think he is too much attached to me! I hope he is not going to be a mommy’s boy!

Any way training was Okay. There were about 3000 developers that had traveled from all over the US to Anaheim for this training and seminars. It was a 3-day event but I just took part for one day. It was mostly about a new Macromedia product, which is called, Flex. The funny thing is whenever I go to these high Tech seminars and trainings I see very few women. It’s amazing that very little amount of women are interested in IT in U.S I think this is not just US and every where in the world must be the same. One of the reasons is that in this field you should always keep yourself up to date and as a woman who is wife or mother it is always hard to put so much time in learning, training, etc besides work. Any way when I think about it I see that I really enjoy programming and if would go back the only other job that may would attract me is being lawyer I think I could be good at that too! But my real fantasy job would be fashion designer! I love cloths and fashion but working in those fields is very competitive and part of it is luck!

Some thing that came to my mind while I was at the training yesterday was how well organized was the whole thing and how well they managed all the sessions and seminars. The Americans are really good at management and may be that’s the key to their success, even if the president is not the most brilliant person! But still the country is well managed in most of aspects because no matter what, there are always lost of good managers on the top! Exactly despite of what we have in Iran, may be we have lots of smart people that if you give them chance they can make a small America inside the Iran! But the management is zero; to me it is absolutely zero! I think this is a big issue in every developing country. They need to work on management skills more than any thing else so they can develop faster! And of course the other important key would be stealing less and spending more for the country too!! What do you think??

Turtles can fly!

I watched a movie on Sunday night. It is directed and produced by Bahman Ghobadi who is an Iranian director. The name of the movie is Turtles can fly! That was one of the saddest movies I have ever seen but was a naked truth about the Iraqi Kurd’s life in Iraq in Saddam’s time. It was showing how miserable the kid’s life was there! I don’t think it is much better now. I know how much Kurds suffer in Iraq, Iran and Turkey and its not just Kurds that suffer because of war, prejudism and poverty!
The movie broke my heart and I cried a lot. I told to my husband if god would tell me that “if you die today all the poverty and injustice will be wiped off from earth” I would die right a way. I truly mean it!It is so sad to see especially kids to be victim of war and poverty. Bunch of ignorant, arrogant people that don’t have any heart and just think about power and money destroy other people’s life by initiating wars and selling guns! They must set a rule in united nation “no gun”. No country can have any gun or sell or produce any gun. I know I sound very idealistic! And to some people ridiculous that’s why people like me are not ruling the world! But may be that is a dream that some day come true!! I every day pray for that! What about you?

Found a good day care!

Thank god that I could find a very good home day care for my son. I thought about the whole issue and I thought that may be the big childcare centers are not good enough for his age. Because they usually accept more kids and do less supervision for them. at the age of my son which is called terrible 2! He needs a place that the number of kids are less and they get more attention individually.
Any way I researched and contacted the childcare licensing agency for some referrals in our neighborhood. I got some numbers and set up appointment with the one that seemed a good match for what I was looking for. I took my Mom and my husband a long with my son to the place. I wanted to have every one’s feedback! This home daycare is a big house with a huge back yard and has a big room full of toys, which looks more like a toy store especially designed and decorated for kids.
The lady who is the owner and main teacher seemed very nice and kind, she looks very confident about the quality of her service. There are six other kids besides my son and there is another teacher. All of us got very good feeling about the place and more important than that, was my son that mingled with other kids fast and had lots of fun. We decided to register him for the care and it’s already two days that I take him there. The lady is very happy with him and it seems that he is fitting there well.

Oh, that is big relief for me, it was really a big issue for me the way they were treating my son and pointing finger to him all the time! At the pervious child care center. They are just little kids, they need love, attention and supervision, if they do something bad it’s the nature of their age, we (parent and care givers) are responsible to correct them. I was trying my best to correct him but the childcare center was not trying to help at all. It seems like they are just running a business and kids are numbers to them. I know not that not every childcare center is that way but the one he was going to was, for sure!
Any way thank god that he is happy and safe now, I hope the situation remains same!

Another taugh day!

I saw the psychologist about my son’s issue. He believes that he is a very healthy and happy child. Which I know it my self. He thinks since he has been trying to learn two languages at the same time that made it hard for him to speak one language well at this age and the main reason for biting is frustration and that is because he cannot verbalize himself well and tell what he wants.
He has been behaving well for the last 10 days and the teacher was so happy with him but I got another call this morning again that he bit a classmate and we should pick him up for the day. My husband picked him up and took him to my Mom’s house. I am very upset about this. I am trying my best to make him understand that biting or hitting is bad. He listens for few days and then he does it again. I have tried my best to talk to him more in English these days so he can make progress faster in language.
Being parent is such a challenging job. You think you are doing your best but out come shows that there is need to work harder and harder.
God! please help him to talk better and behave better. He is such a cute, happy boy just needs to communicate better!

Different things

Different things have happened from last week.
I got a call from my son’s school last Friday before noon. They said he had behaved very badly that day and I should go and pick him up right a way. I was so upset. I took off from work and went to his school. He had pushed two kids and bit another kid. This was the first time that he had done so many bad things at the same time. He bit every now and then but he had not done it for a while. When I got there I saw that his chin was scratched badly and when I asked what had happened to his chin they did knot know the reason! I was very mad, I know my son had behaved really badly but this could tell that they were not watching kids closely. I felt that they were not fair. My son is a very happy boy in general but some times he has the aggressive side that part of it is because of his age and may be other part is that we have done some thing wrong! We try to be as nice and calm as we can at home and always try to make him understand what is the difference between good and bad. One main reason that the teacher was agreeing with me on it is that he is learning two languages and some times is hard for him to verbalize him self correctly so his classmates or teacher don’t understand him and it makes him frustrated. Any way we have been working on it very hard, first of all I called DR Holakouee the very famous Iranian psychologist that has program at Iranian station. He gave me some advices and was kind of blaming me that the main reason is that I went back to work and he had stayed home with my Mom and did not spend enough time with me so he had some frustration inside. I know he is kind of right. The ideal way is to quit job and stay home with kid until they become 3 but how realistic is that in today world? I myself always feel guilty about going back to work but I would lose my career. The bad thing about my career is that if you are out of field for couple of years no one will hire you or it would be very difficult to get job again.
Any way I researched about this issue a lot and I am seeing a psychologist tomorrow, although he has been behaving well this week. I think he understood that how upset I was! And I tried to explain to him that he should try to be always nice to other kids .I took him to park and places that he could play with other kids and I kept reminding him that he should be nice!

The second thing is our director is retiring soon, he was the one that initiated and managed all the IT projects, so if he leaves here the projects that we are working on will be stopped too. He was the one pushing them any way, state never said OK to those projects so we will lose our jobs! Especially me another co-worker of mine that got hired last! Every one is kind of nervous but we cannot %100 predict that what would happen. I will stay until I see they actually want to get rid of us!

Anyway some times life is not that easy! Different things come up and you should deal with them and resolve them for yourself!

I have started my prayers again, for a while I did not pray I was lazy to do that, but I feel I need it and I should pray like before!!